Sunday evening there were a few new students who decided to join me in exploring BDSM in more detail. It was awesome that so many came with an open mind, curious, and best of all prepared. We met at The Studio, a private south side location with beautiful décor, ambiance, and fascinating equipment.
We were sat in a semi circle, keeping Crimson at the center of our attention as her seat was later introduced to us as a 'Spanking Horse'. The orientation began with a brief introduction and an overview of Bondage/Behavior, Discipline, Sadism, Masochism. Aside from the technical aspects I always love the self identity component that the instructors
I find execute so well. Si se puede!
You can do this at home with your lover, spouse, significant other! Communication is the key. Several conversations NEED to
happen. The conversation BEFORE you initiate kinky play is so necessary to truly know your partners comfort levels, fantasies and desires. In this, boundaries can be set as well as green lights to have your way. It all boils down to fun for all if consideration and care for your partner are at the forefront. The verbal/non-verbal communication happens naturally during the session. Its ok to
laugh! Its ok to ask for more! Its ok to say what you do and don't like.
We received tips on setting the scene, such as music, clothing and lighting options and being mindful of how all of these
things affect the mood. My favorite tip was to tease your partner! Teasing helps you to focus on what you want to do with and to your partner.
Great introduction, helpful details, and then....
THE LIVE DEMONSTRATION
The demonstration, without too many details, was a wonderful way to see all of the tips for executing a scene in action. It went from sensual to lustful. From lustful to female dominating. From dominating to punishment. From punishment to reward. It was beautiful. The model was ready, willing and artfully handsome.
After the live demonstration we practiced a few saran wrap bondage techniques that were easy enough to try at home with
effective techniques that can immobilize your partner, leaving them vulnerable to pleasure at your discretion. I enjoyed the sensation of bondage. I had trust in my instructor and students as I was shrink wrapped and then later tied up. It led me to imagine the heightened sensation I would have with my lover. Sex beyond fucking.
In short communicate, establish trust, show concern, tenderness and love, even if you're giving or receiving pain according to your lovers wishes. Most importantly have fun with your partner, be safe, and give it a try.
For more information about BDSM 201, check out:
Mistress Crimson –http://www.mistresscrimson.net
The Studio –http://www.thestudiochicago.com
Special thanks Mistress Simone and Mistress Xena who so gracefully has invited The Meow University back for more educational
sessions. Stay tuned!!!